By Rach Griffiths
A local lady is hoping to raise lots of money for charity organisation Saying Goodbye which is the support division of The Mariposa Trust On March 8th when one of her relatives will be taking to the air in a charity skydive named Jump For Love.
The Mariposa Trust is a Charity offering International Support and Services for those who have lost a baby in Pregnancy, at birth or in early years.
Saying Goodbye is the name of the division that offers support for those that have lost a child and is very widely known.
The charity also organises Cathedral services for parents and families.
Services are free to attend and are open to anyone of any faith or no faith.
The events are strategically located, to make them accessible to as many people as possible.
They are held in Cathedrals and Minsters and so follow an Anglican format, but also include secular music, poetry and other elements.
Crewe resident and mum of two Claire Evanson sadly lost a son in pregnancy at 20 weeks gestation 15 years ago due to complications with the placenta.
At the time she had the support of her family but still had some feelings she struggled to cope with.
I had a chat with Claire and asked about how she managed during this hard time
It all happened very suddenly, I was taken into hospital and it was a very traumatic experience.
I was very young at the time and I didn’t really know what was happening, I was 20 weeks into my pregnancy and it was going very well so you can imagine how shocked I was to be told I had lost my baby.
You go through lots of different stages of feelings, it was an emotional roller coaster and I could not see anyway of getting off.
I had the support of my mum but there were some things that only those that have been through it can understand.
I found that people avoided me because they just didn’t know what to say, I suppose it was because they felt they did not want to upset me but looking back on it now I can see that they meant well but it doesn’t help when you feel so alone.
The feelings never really go away, you just learn to live with them but recently I have found support groups and the wonderful Mariposa Trust charity.
I can speak to people who have been through it who understand what it is like to go through something like this and talk it through without them feeling uncomfortable about it.
The Mariposa Trust is a relatively new organisation that was officially established in 2013.
However the work of the trust started in 2012, and it has been set-up to oversee and steer the various projects and divisions including Saying Goodbye and GrowingYou.
They work with Government and Health Professionals to improve the care and support of people pre, during and post baby loss.
The Trust is led by the founders Zoe and Andy Clark-Coates and they are supported by a wonderful team, who assist in coordinating the work of the charity across the UK and worldwide.
Claire went on to tell us about a skydive that will be taking place soon and hopes to help them in not just raising money but also to make more people aware of the support that is out there for people who have lost a child.
Even now the feelings are still there, I went through stages of blaming myself for everything that had happened, I questioned myself all the time such as, could I have done something wrong?, could I have changed it in anyway?, what if I had done this or what if I had done that?.
There were many things going around my head, there will be things that I will probably always think about but I feel now I can openly talk about this and help others to realise that there is support out there for them.
If I can help even just one person to get support through times like this then that will make me very happy.
I started looking online for support groups and people to talk to and came across the Mariposa trust skydive.
This is a brilliant idea and I didn’t know if I could go through with it and was talking it over with a family member when my relative Steve said he would like to do it so I took him up on it.
There are two stillbirths in my family and Steve hopes that people will support him to do this to raise money for the trust to continue to carry on the brilliant work that they do for people and their families.
If you have experienced the loss of a child or you know friends that have and would like to help Claire to achieve her goal then please check out the fundraising page on the blue link below.
Jump for love Skydive
If you would like to sign up for a charity skydive in your area of the UK or if you know a friend that may benefit from the information provided then please share this link.
The Mariposa Trust
Good luck to Claire on raising money for the charity and a special good luck to brave Steve Parton who will be representing 1000 babies and children when he makes his brave Jump For Love.
The dive will be taking place at Whitchurch on March 8th 2014 which is a re-scheduled date due to the fact that weather conditions were not suitable on the original date in February.